In love forever?

Valentine’s day: eternal love? The schon-klink deals with the following topics as part of the lecture series "health talk on thursday, 14. February, at 7 pm with the question: do we need a day that reminds us of our love and how can a relationship outlast everyday life??" Will speak dr. Michael svitak, senior psychologist at the schon clinic.

If the surplus of positive attention towards another person is based on reciprocity, people in love experience this as very beneficial. Compliments, gifts, time spent together – all this leads to the release of more happiness hormones, which strengthen the bond. In a figurative sense, people in love pay into a joint relationship account in a kind of relationship preservation. In the phase of being in love this account grows steadily.

Very few couples, however, shower each other with compliments and affection throughout their lives. Instead of saying what you like about your partner, it’s easier in everyday life to say what’s bothering you. But this is also the danger for every partnership. If you repeatedly withdraw money from your relationship account without making sufficient deposits, for example by nagging or criticizing, your partner will inevitably do the same. This leads in every love relationship sooner or later in the partnership bankruptcy.

Happy couples who stay together for the long term notice this process of wear and tear in a partnership earlier and know that they have to maintain the positive cycle of reinforcement and positive attention themselves. How this can succeed is presented by dr. Svitak on the example of "5-to-1"-formula before and advice to couples for reflection. "Looking at the relationship account and checking whether both invest enough in the partnership to keep it strong and in the green is more helpful than giving gifts on a consumer-oriented day", says the expert.

The venue is the schon clinic. The entrance to the event is free of charge. The event begins at 7 p.M., admission from 18 years of age.30 o’clock. Registration is not required.